More often than desired, life happens to always send some messages that feel like slaps in the face. You can call them wake up calls, fate, karma or even Batman; it happens to each and every one of us, and it’s always when you least expect it. The moment, where you finally reach the core from which every tiny string of that big cobweb of thoughts that’s in your head finally connects and makes all sense in the world. The best occasions of which are when it’s all said, done and you’re right in the process of figuring everything out, and just like that, you find the answer of two plus two hypnotizing.
For example, a particular situation happened to me, that is just a few days old and fresh in my brain. I stopped by a gas station to pick up a bite to eat and caffeine for the road ahead, the place was packed to the brim and the music dimmed by people’s chatter, I wrestled my way through the aisles, loudly commenting on the weird price tags on chocolate bars and biscuits until I finally reached the deli section.
With so many options available, it took me a bit of time to choose what to get, with hands appearing right and left, picking up sandwiches as I’m still processing whether I should stick to the regular or try something new. I thought about asking the guy who takes the orders and heats up the croissants for a recommendation. All I was looking for was a simple answer, but I got nothing more than a further taste of self-discovery, and it wasn’t that tasty.
The man looks at me and gives off the aura of nothing but annoyance. I questioned whether I should ask him or not, but when he was free, I took the chance. Asking which sandwich would he recommended; as in, which one tasted better or if it was worth it, he glanced my way and gave off fast and blurry comments at first. So I resumed my journey of finding the perfect sandwich, and found myself going back to wanting a second perspective on something I would get for myself. So I asked again and he said, annoyingly, ‘I don’t know, see what you like and just get it!’.
This may come to some as a mere response, nothing that big of a deal, but looking further on, as I was munching on the unusual pick I finally chose (which was pretty good by the way), I kept thinking again and again of how indecisive I was at first. Begging for someone else’s opinion, just to make sure what I was doing or thinking of doing was approved or acclaimed. When in fact, I found that I didn’t really need anyone else’s opinion, and I made the decision of buying the chosen wrap myself. This was life’s gentle reminder to make my own decisions and not look around me for affirmations.
If I were to focus on that from the start, a lot of things in my life would have been completely different, and probably might have taken an entirely different course. We need to be bold with our decisions, own them, take charge, and be fearless. Try new things and see what really suits you. The more you try, the more you know, and eventually, the firmer the grip you have on your life.